This is a virtually unique career center. It is so called - as it is in itself a self-discovery process based on what one has and not on what one has not. As used in this center, career actually includes all of one’s life. Qualities for success are already a part of each one’s life. We can prove it. We simply need to become aware of what we have and take practical steps to use it.
This center links off my website, which shares different things I have done. Not that any of this is extraordinary, but that these are things I wanted to do. As the first sentence reiterates, 'we can do whatever we want to do as long as we know how to think'. My life has been and continues to be a process of discovering how to think and more and more of my identity as I go along. Some things I tried for a while (such as flying small planes or ballroom dancing), others I spent time doing until I wanted to move on to something else. We do not have to be successful at everything we try; sometimes we just decide to move on. I reflect and express the qualities for success. Life is success. Problem is, most of us do not feel successful. For example, if you took a trip and had no designation in mind, you would go, come back to wherever your point of return was, but you would not have felt that you reached your goals/vision, because you had not envisioned any. So, you may come back weary and wonder why you ever went in the first place. Know what I mean? Have days, weeks, months or years like that?
Now, if your goal is to discover what you have and put it to good use in whatever your next goal/vision might be, you have come to the right place. I challenge you to continue through the process and see what happens. From experience I have found that most people, who have gone through workshops with me, do indeed, come away with a better way to think and to achieve their goals. It is worth the effort. You are worth the effort!
First we will take a look at the 10 (ten) Principles of Success with some discussion after each. Then we will look at what causes failure with explanation. From that point, we will expand on the first two. Goal/vision and Self-Esteem.
PRINCIPLES OF SUCCESS:
Vision- Define what you want to do; see yourself doing it now. Learn to write affirmations to yourself, seeing yourself enjoying the vision. How does it look? What does it feel like? Are you enjoying it? It all starts with an idea. The idea must take place within you before you will allow yourself to reach your goal/vision. (Read: Wayne Dyer's book: 'You'll See It When You Believe It'.) See next page for more on goals.
Self-Esteem- Do you see yourself as worth it? You are as your creator made you and you must love yourself. God is first, you and your neighbor are second in the requirements for the self-esteem needed to soar and sing in victory. Whitney Houston's song: "Greatest Love of all" is about the love which comes first. You cannot love others if you do not love yourself; you have no love to give. Forgiveness is essential in learning to love yourself and others. Then, is the goal worth it? All champions must find that space within which allows them to be champions. More on this later.......
Fact vs. Fiction - You must learn to see what is true and what is a false suggestion of fear. Walt Disney had his first character stolen from him before he created mickey mouse. Did that stop him? No, he knew where the idea came from and he knew he had another idea and he moved forward and became the successful cartoonist he was, sharing mickey with all of us and many more cartoon characters as well. Any thought or suggestion which comes to you that tells you it can't be done - no matter how forceful it might be is fiction. Nothing can stop you but you.
Work- It does seem logical that in order to reach a goal/vision, you will need to work toward that end. And so it is.
Commitment- Working toward a vision/goal requires a commitment to do the work until the goal is reached. Working spasmodically is not sufficient since it usually requires work at regular intervals which may interfere with other activities which may appeal.
Perseverance- The real test comes in reaching a goal when one must say, "I will do this work and stay with it until the goal is reached. " This may be a hardship and require much sacrifice to do but the determination to get the job done must take precedence over other options for use of time and thought. Must be Reliant.
Faith- This principle refers back to the second principle of self-esteem. For if ones does not believe it is possible to be successful in reaching the goal, one will more than likely not allow himself/herself to reach the vision/goal. One must have faith that God will allow him/her to reach this high goal. Must be Confident. Look at my blog.
Inspiration-There will be days or blocks of time when you do not 'feel' like doing anything toward your goal. You must learn what inspires you to do it anyway. Example: listening to music, reading inspiring books/articles, talking to mentors, etc. Gratitude is a necessary quality at this point. What are you grateful for? How much progress have you made? To express gratitude moves your thought past the fear to another level which allows you to move forward. Remember prayer. Read Jampolsky's 'Love is Letting Go of Fear'.
Goodwill-To be truly successful you need to have a spirit of goodwill toward others. You must want to see others blessed and happy and not do anything intentionally to harm or undermine others to reach your goal. Example: Hitler had many of the principles but he seemed to miss the mark when it came to goodwill toward others. Remember, you must 'love your neighbor as yourself.' 'The Gentle Art of Blessing' by Pierre Pradervand is excellent reading. You need to read this.......
Association- this principle is of utmost importance in reaching your vision/goal. 1.You need to identify those who will encourage you and inspire you to keep working and associate with them. 2. You must determine that no one will keep you from reaching your goal. Sometimes the one who will be the discourager will be very close to you and you must learn when and if to discuss your goal with him or her. 3. Association with good reading materials and tapes as source of positive feedback is helpful too. 'Power of Intention' by W. Dyer is a wonderful example.
NOTE: Important is the fact that these principles are qualities of thought we already have. Every time we have reached a goal of some sort (stop smoking-for example) we have used these principles. Fear may have tried to slow you down or come to thought as a suggestion when you slipped up one day and suggested to thought that 'you're never gonna do this, so why try'. You may have been tempted, but made a decision to go ahead and work/persevere toward reaching your goal - whatever it was. Check our my blog for more on goals/vision.
FEAR: FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL
- the only cause of failure. Fear wears many masks and fear may be divided into 6 major areas.
MAJOR FEARS AND MASKS OF FEAR
Fear of poverty. Comes through old myths from past and we may not even be aware that we have developed poverty consciousness. Things like " money doesn't grow on trees" is example of how we develop fear of lack and don't realize it. We heard it over the years and we develop destructive habits such as compulsive eating/buying; greed stems from this fear of poverty. Many wars are due to fear and greed based on fear of poverty. The things taught in different cultures justify war and conflict but these are masks for fear.
Fear of criticism- Believe it or not, this fear is one of the biggest obstacles for most people. Some people will do anything to keep from speaking in front of a group, for example. Some folks never try new things because they are afraid others will laugh at them.
Fear of ill health- When you hear people constantly talking about their bad health and what is wrong with them, that is fear talking. They are afraid they will have ill health and thus, they find they are experiencing it. Remember: what we think about is what we become. Being a couch potato fosters mediocrity.
Fear of loss of loved one- When someone is overprotective and constantly telling another to call back and let them know they are alright, that is fear's mask. Always checking behind someone to see if they are okay, a mask for fear of loss of loved one. When a parent, for example, is too overprotective of their children, it is a mask for this fear.
Fear of old age- Know anyone who is always talking about getting old? That is caused by the fear of old age. Some think they need to dress a certain way, act a certain way; they find themselves living out the fear.
Fear of death- When a person has all arrangements made for burial and talks about where things are and what to do when they are gone. Talks about all the time. They are afraid of death. So much wasted time worrying about death and not living in the present wonderful now. Fear of death. Think about that. 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle is excellent.
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casteth out fear: God is Love. Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom. The kingdom of God is within you. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. Gems from The Bible
What is our deepest fear?
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are we not to be?
You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people
won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone.
As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fears, our
presence automatically liberates others.
Nelson Mandela
Inaugural Speech, 1994
